It’s always hard to know how people will treat you. Will they be forthcoming with the latest office gossip? They’ll certainly notice that time you leave 5 minutes early or arrive 5 minutes late. Personally, I don’t feel like it has ever been an issue for me. I can understand it, but that’s why I make sure I get to work early, do my job and leave at the end of my working day, just like everyone else. I don’t want to be an outsider, I want to be part of the team and I certainly don’t want people to be afraid to say something, worried that I’ll run to daddy and tell.
If someone or something winds me up, I’m likely to tell the person I sit next to and they’ll tell me. I listen to my colleagues; I ask their advice and they do the same in return. I’d like to think there’s a mutual respect there. Of course, there’s always going to be things that they’ll never share but I accept that and understand why.
The key is that I don’t report to my dad and I’ll always refer to him as ‘Russell.’ He too understands that it’s important for us not be associated as father and daughter at work. He will tell me if I’ve done a good job, but he won’t shout it from the rooftops. That’s why it works, we’re on the same page. In meetings my opinion is important, but so is everyone else’s and there’s no favouritism.
If I had a pound for all the weekend phone conversations that start with ‘Hello Lily, its Russell, err… I mean Daddy’ but I too do the same. ‘Russell, I mean Daddy, can you pick me up from the wine bar?’ We’re so used to it but that’s a good thing.
I remember once, accompanying a colleague to a client meeting. They introduced me as ‘Lily, her Dad owns Angel’ and I was mortified. Its everything I’ve worked hard not to be. I want to be remembered for the skills that back up why I’m standing in the room, not because I share the same family genes.
I have tried to disassociate myself as a family member in the business, but this doesn’t mean I’m not proud to be part of the Angel family. I am, extremely so. The Boss, just like his mother before him says ‘There’s no family in business’ and he’s right. We’re a family company at heart but everyone is equal and has a job to do. If I’m not good enough, I’ll certainly know.
Will I delete these posts once they’ve run their course? Yes, because I don’t want to be the boss’s daughter, I want to be Lily.